6 Ways to Fix a Sexless Marriage Before It's Too Late

When you first meet someone and pass the courting stage you will probably enter a period where you enjoy sex at every opportunity you get, this could be daily or twice daily.  However, every couple experiences a reduced need for sex as the relationship becomes more comfortable.  This does not mean the love has gone, rather that the time available has reduced.  Commitments at work and at home will often drain you physically and emotionally leaving very little time Read more

What to Do if Your Teenager or Young Adult Has a Drug Problem

Drug addiction can happen at any age, and nobody is exempt from the risk of becoming an addict. Teenagers may become addicted to drugs for a number of different reasons, whether they started trying a drug simply to experiment or have fun or as a result of more serious underlying issues such as depression, anxiety or chronic stress. If your teenager is using drugs and continues to use them despite the real risks of harmful consequences, you may need Read more

8 Surprising Reasons Why You Wake Up Tired

We humans need our sleep. Most of us feel at our best when we have had around seven hours of uninterrupted sleep. We then wake up full of the joys of life, ready to face the world. It is a different story if you haven’t slept well. You wake up feeling like death, hollow-eyed and groggy, and then spend the rest of the day fighting to stay awake. Everyone has a few bad nights here are there, usually when kids Read more

Women’s Guide to Anti-Aging Skin

You can never start too early to prevent your skin from showing signs of ageing. What you need is the right skincare and lifestyle tips to send them packing. Here are some tips to help you save face. Pack Your Moisturizer No matter what moisturizer you use, anything that will soften your skin will go the distance to giving you supple skin that is less likely to show wrinkles. However, there are some ingredients that will make your skin even softer, Read more

A Proud Parenting Moment

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Wikipedia: Freedom From Fear is a painting by Norman Rockwell, which was published in the March 13, 1943 Issue of The Saturday Evening Post as part of the “Four Freedoms” series. 

Like many parents, I’ve tried to raise my kids to be responsible, non-racist, productive human beings. I’m by no means a perfect mother, far from it, but the one thing I have always asked of them is to be accepting and don’t judge. Sometimes you wonder if the things you say actually get through. When Caden brought home an essay entitled “Freedom of Fear” it was vindication and one of my proudest parenting moments. The paper and his words were proof that all my jabbering has been heard. Take a look. I’ve broken up the essay into two images with some overlap (sorry about that): Read more

The Things Tweens Say

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While being an older mom has many advantages, there are also some drawbacks. The further away you get from your youth – the more distant you are to teen and young adult “lingo”. For instance, Caden walked into my bedroom yesterday to give me something I had dropped in the hallway. I thanked him, to which he replied, “No pra, bra.”

Whaaaaat? Read more

Things I Don’t Want My Daughter Growing Up Believing

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I always wanted to have a daughter. After having three boys and knowing instinctively each time that I was carrying XYers, I kind of gave up on the dream. I didn’t think being the mom of a little girl was in the cards for me.  And I accepted that reality. My boys were the greatest gifts, and I was a pro at raising the male population.

Things really do change in a heartbeat. Twelve years after having my last son, I became pregnant again. From the moment we first read the positive result on a home pregnancy test, I just knew. I knew she was coming.  Everything told me that inside I was carrying a little girl, an XXer.  She arrived in December 2011, Alessandra Rayne. Read more

Keep Your Parenting Advice To Yourself (please and thanks)

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I love how even at my age I am continually lectured about how I should and shouldn’t raise my daughter (and other kids – including the new one). How could I possibly have let her drink from a sippy cup at only 7-months-old? Why we would ever consider co-sleeping with her? After all, this screws with a child’s independence, right? You know, I like to think of myself as a good mother. I have raised three wonderful boys. They have never been in serious trouble or made devastating choices. They are not racist or judgmental. They are good, well-adjusted kids. I raised them and helped shape who they are today. And I did a damn good job. Read more

Are you raising a clingmaster?

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Aless just turned 7 months, and I have to admit she is attached to me at the hip. It’s like having an overexcited growth with 16 arms hanging from the side of your body. Now this wouldn’t be a problem if she didn’t feel it necessary to get upset 8 out of 10 times when I try to put her down and walk away. The times I do put her down and she is content typically involve being on the floor or squarely in eyesight of her brother, Cade. She has an affinity for this kid. Read more

What is a mother?

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Although I am well-connected online and manage a number of industry-specific groups, I have made it a point to keep my Facebook network small – reserved for true friends, family and close colleagues. In this group, there are stay-at-home-moms, doctors, lawyers, retirees, writers and so on – just a truly great circle of human beings. So the other day, I reached out to them and asked, “What is a mother?” Their individual responses warmed my heart. Here are some of their replies: Read more