How do you measure your value?


I’ve been thinking a lot lately about my value. How do you measure something so obscure? I’m almost forty years old. I’ve already lived half my life according to what is considered average today in America. Half my life has gone by and what do I have to show for it? Should I be worried? Should I be happy?

If you consider value in terms of family, I am one lucky girl. I have been blessed with four beautiful children (and a granddaughter!), a supportive husband and great friends. The value of my personal relationships is astronomical! But if you take family out of the equation and look solely at things like owning a house, financial stability and career happiness, my value is questionable.

I’m very thankful to have a job and one that I perform to the best of my ability. I’ve met some wonderful people and made great friends because of my job. There are days, however, when I question how happy I am with the career path I’m on. Can I see myself doing this five years from now? Ten? Am I making a difference?

When it comes to financial stability and home ownership, boy, I’ve made countless mistakes. Apocalypse-level whoppers. I’ve let investments burn, savings dwindle and debt increase. I’ll admit, some of the mediating factors were beyond my control. But I still had plenty of opportunities to do better and failed. I’m self-aware, which is good, and I do beat myself up daily over some of the financial blunders I’ve made. The bottom line: my financial value is crap.

So I’m back to where I started. How do you measure your value?

While doing some research last night, I stumbled upon an amazing piece by life coach Morgana Rae. Her insight gave me the answer:

“The value of our lives comes not in what we do or who we know, but WHO WE ARE.”

She stresses that no matter what happens in our lives – good or bad – we never lose our value. She’s right.

I consider myself to be a trustworthy, hard-working, dedicated woman who had strong values instilled in me as a child. I’ve never been in serious trouble, had a drug or drinking problem or purposefully hurt anyone. The OCD aside, I feel pretty good about who I am. I maintain my values, never deviating from what I believe in and stand for.

With that said, in terms of who I am, I feel my value is immeasurable. And that’s a good thing.

How about you? How do you measure your value?

Posted on by Crystal in MommiFried Extras

8 Responses to How do you measure your value?

  1. Angela

    Luckily for me, and aparently for you, our self worth and our bank accounts have little to do with each other. I have learned to base my self value on whether or not I help the people in my life be happy people, be better people than they are without me in their lives. I’m a good wife, I’m a damn good mother, I’m a pretty darn good friend and I make a mean cup of coffee. Today that’s enough. Tomorrow I might need more. Since we’re on rather the same career path I can tell you I’ve had those same moments of doubt. The sacrifice (financial) is worth it in the end because it’s what is right for my family. Only you can decide if it’s right for yours or not, but I suspect that it is.
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  2. thedoseofreality

    Definitely not by the size of my bank account, thank goodness! This is a great post! 🙂
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  3. misssrobin

    I went through this question a few years ago when my health went down the toilet. I couldn’t do as much as before. I couldn’t be productive in typical ways. If I couldn’t do and produce, how could I be worth anything? How could I contribute? It’s taken me a long time to feel okay with it. I still struggle sometimes wanting to be who I was. But I trust the direction my life is headed most of the time. I am happy with who I am. And that’s enough for me.

    Great post. Stopping by from SITS.
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  4. Nancy

    Sounds like my life, except for the grandchild (maybe someday!!!!). Never underestimate the value of persistence. Thank you for sharing!

  5. Haley @ NaturalFitandFrugal

    Great post and one I can appreciate as I often ask myself this question. Honestly we owned a house and let it go it was more of a noose around our necks and we have never been happier as a family.

    Money can’t buy happiness and a good attitude!

    Visiting from Saturday sharefest

  6. Jamie

    It’s a good question, and something I’ve been struggling with myself lately. :/
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  7. Chris Carter

    I struggle often with my value- always relating it to what I have “done” instead of who I “am”… I’m a doer- not a be-er… But truly, I think I know my worth deep down. Visiting from SITS!
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  8. MCM Mama

    Great question. Living in a very type A, competitive area makes me question my value all the time. And around here, the answer seems to be either the money you have or the time you spend at your job, neither of which is that important to me.
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