5 Things We Wish Our Kids Didn’t Do


As parents, we love our kids unconditionally. Through their ups and downs, during and after every hissy fit and temper tantrum and even when they push us to our absolute limits, we never stop loving them. It’s parenthood and, while stressful and challenging at times, it’s the most rewarding job on the planet.

There are things, however, that our children do that gnaw away at us like someone dragging their nails on a chalkboard; little annoyances and irritations that question our sanity. I’m sure the triggers differ from parent to parent, but we can all relate to those things we wish our kids didn’t do.

Here are five things that top my list (and other parents I spoke to):

Going for a sleepover and talking all about the argument you had with your spouse earlier that day or the “bad” thing happening at home right now.

How this one kills me. I want to choke my kid out when I’ve discovered they’ve “gossiped” about private home happenings while at a friend’s house. It’s like the telephone game. When things are repeated, they have a way of getting twisted, exaggerated or completely taken out of context. Kids, here is a rule of thumb: if I don’t blog about it, it’s off limits.

Dressing themselves.

Call me a bad mother or tell me that I’m squashing their independence, but I’m not a fan of kids picking out their own clothes, especially for school and important events. People judge. Other kids judge. And I know I shouldn’t let this affect me, but I do. Growing up, I was constantly reminded that I should never leave the house without clean underwear and socks, because, hey, you just never know when you might get into an accident and have to go to the hospital. That did it for me. I worry what others think about my appearance. I want people to know that I take good care of my children and care about their appearances. When a child puts on a striped shirt with stains all over the front coupled with a pair of torn camouflaged printed jeans and is asked to change, it does more of a disservice than simply helping them to get dressed in the first place.

Participating in every damn sport or afterschool activity.

I don’t have a lot of free time, nor do I expect much, if any, me time. I do, however, expect to live according to the Gregorian calendar, not the laws of Venus. Whether overachievers or they just like being social and out of the house, some kids find it necessary to participate in countless extracurricular activities throughout the school year. They are also the ones who often whine and complain when dinner is late or there are no clean clothes to be found anywhere in the house. Oh, I did indeed just say that.

Comparing me to Joey’s mom.

I’m not Joey’s mom. I’m me, take it or leave it kiddo.

Looking at me like I’m suddenly speaking a foreign language.

At the epicenter of my parental aggravation level, is the infamous “Duhhhhhh” look that my kids have and continue to give me at precisely the “right” moments. It might be in the middle of a discussion about needing to take care of something important or during the early morning rush when a million things have to happen and all hands are needed on deck. I have yet to figure out if these are some type of growing pains related to the brain or simply Homer Simpson moments. Doh! The mommy in me tends to think the latter.

I’d love to hear your list. What things do wish your kids wouldn’t do?

Posted on by Crystal in Kids

16 Responses to 5 Things We Wish Our Kids Didn’t Do

  1. Lady Estrogen

    Ohh, the activities. This is one I’m really dreading. Hubs and I have discussed it and we’re hoping that the boys will either be into the same ones, or only one is into them. I’m sure it’s not going to go my way, but I can fantasize for now, right?
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  2. Molley@A Mother Life

    Good list… I could add a couple.. repeating myself 55 billion times….
    and staying in bed after lights out! Just kill me now!
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    • Crystal

      Good ones! And you’re welcome! Hope to see you Friday for our Ladies Only Blog Share Link Party! 🙂

  3. thedoseofreality

    Totally agree with you about ALL of these! Especially when they look at you with the deer in the headlights look and like they have no idea what you are saying!-The Dose Girls
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  4. Michelle

    I love the parent comparison! NOT! It drives me up the wall too! Hello children, the grass is not always greener! Joey’s mom might let him have a tv in his room, but she might not drive him all over timbuktu for soccer!
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  5. Heather

    Great list. I like Molley’s too, repeating the same thing over and over. Drives me insane.
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  6. Tamara Camera

    The dressing themselves made me laugh. My daughter is all about that at three. The problem is that I dressed her last week, at her request, and I think she looked just as much of a rainbow-striped bag lady than she does when she dresses herself! As for the gossip…it scares me. What does/will she say about me at school?
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  7. Aleney @ BoyEatsWorld

    This made me laugh. I just had a twenty minute struggle with my 2 year old who wanted to wear a tutu, gumboots and her brothers Green Day T-shirt with her fave a Hello Kitty Headband. I gave in or we’d have been late so she’s gone into the world looking like she needs to be institutionalized. And I’m totally with you on the activities. It is hell x 2. 🙂

  8. Lisa

    I remember a teacher telling me once that she could tell the people who cared about their children by the way they dressed. I always made sure after she said that to make a point of looking my kids over before they left…Clean? Wrinkled? Matching? Etc. Oh and hair combed. I never wanted someone to think I didn’t care.
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  9. karen

    Love the egreeting…captured it perfectly. Great post and I totally agree completely. I fear what other bad parenting and horrible kids will affect my kids.
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  10. karen

    oh….and happy Saturday Sharefest
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  11. Tracie

    I love this – “Kids, here is a rule of thumb: if I don’t blog about it, it’s off limits.”
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  12. KJ @PlustheMagic

    I love this post! And we actually do have a real life Joey here. And like you, I am by no means her… 🙂
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  13. Lisa @ The Golden Spoons

    Love the list!! I’m with you on the clothes – I get tired of the fight, but when they dress themselves, it drives me nuts! Also with you on the activities! 🙂
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  14. Kerry

    Yup to all of these. I still pick out my kids’ clothes as well. It saves me a fight and keeps them from looking like a complete hoodlum.
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  15. Gracielle

    My kids are 2 and 4 so I’m not quite there yet, but I’ll keep these in mind as things I have to look forward to! Yikes.

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