When did “maid” become a bad word?


Will someone please tell me, when did “maid” become a bad word? I mean seriously, people. Maid? It’s been said for a thousand years and suddenly, “Oh my effing word! I’ll cut you if you say it again! What are you thinking douche bag? You might offend someone?” Offend who? Me? I’m a maid. I’m a household servant to my family. Do I like it? No. Can they function without my ability to juggle 14,000 different things and still get them clean underoos in the morning? No. Do I want a maid? You’re goddamn right I do! I want a maid, a butler, a nanny, a chauffeur…even if only for a moment. Offended? Get over yourself.

I’m so sick and tired of watching people tiptoe around what’s politically correct and what will get your ass chewed off in 2.2 seconds of writing or saying something not considered kosher. There are definitely certain words and phrases that are not okay to use. Many people have the common sense and decency to know when something really isn’t appropriate or is downright offensive. There are, of course, assclowns out there who lack the brains or self-control to behave within acceptable parameters. They’ll reap what they sow, take my word for it. Karma is society’s black widow.

But maid? How is that offensive? What next? Will we be criticized for referring to someone as a parking lot attendant? Will we be expected to use vehicular organizational assistant? What about cashiers? Should we call them money handlers? Come on, now. I think we’ve gone way too far with this whole “I’m offended” shit.

Someone recently wrote, “Using ‘vertically challenged’ for short people and ‘follicle challenged’ for bald people is more offensive than the correct terms.” I tend to agree. Why? Because they’re NOT challenged. No one is egging them on to grow a few inches or sprout some new hair. They shouldn’t have to feel badly for what is–for who they are. There is nothing wrong with being shorter than average or bald. Both can be very commanding and sexy! Pablo Picasso! Hello?! He was short and sexy, and this steam engine never lacked in the companionship department.

Sometimes words are just…words. Nothing more. If maid is taboo, what should we call bridesmaids? French maids? Do you want to go to a Halloween party dressed as a French household assistant? Didn’t think so. And what about Downton Abbey? Should we cancel the show because the character lineup includes housemaids, lady’s maids, and kitchen maids? Yeah. That would be reprehensible, right?

We’ve just gone too far. Way past okay in my book. So here’s what we’re gonna do…I’ll say maid, you can say tomato. I’m not caving in and using another term. Pin me to a wall and use me as a dartboard if it makes you feel any better.

Posted on by Crystal in Confessions of an Older Mom

13 Responses to When did “maid” become a bad word?

  1. Tom

    PREACH!!! Now I’m all fired up.
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    • Crystal

      Fired up? That’s a GOOD time to write!!!!

  2. Rabia @TheLiebers

    I just want someone to come clean my house. I call him/her/it whatever it requests to be called!!
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  3. WriterMom Angela

    My mother in law and sister in law both work as “cleaning ladies”. I’m not sure exactly what the difference is except they clean more than one person’s house, I think a maid would be full-time in one home. Does that sound about right? I’m a maid, a chauffeur, a cook, a counselor, and a whole lot more to my family!

    Here’s a question, who is deciding what words are offensive and what words are not?
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    • Crystal

      “They” are… and they’re out there, trust me! LOL

  4. Wendy Hernandez

    I laughed out loud at this one!

    One of my best friends during law school was black. She got offended when people called her “African American.” She used to tell me, “I’m black. Call me what I am.”

    Wondering what everyone thinks of my friend’s take on THAT?!
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    • Crystal

      Same here! She hated the term “African American!”

  5. Mary Widdicks

    People need to stop getting worked up over the words we choose and start looking at the feeling behind them. I could make anything derogatory in the right context. Just hang around any grade school playground (not literally, I think there are laws against that!) and you’ll hear “smart” “goody two-shoes” and “teacher’s pet” being used negatively all the time…and probably a few other less PG phrases as well. My point? Come on people, there is context for a reason!
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  6. Nicole Robinson

    Wow, glad I stopped in. Otherwise I wouldn’t have known that maid is supposed to be offensive. Yet another word to add to the list, right next to don’t call girls “bossy.” Jeez.
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  7. Rachel G

    My family had a “house helper” for a while when I was growing up. In that country, “maids” were live-in while “house helpers” only worked a certain number of hours or days a week and worked for several different homes. I’m not sure if that was specific to that culture because I haven’t heard the term “house helper” elsewhere.

  8. Jodi Flaherty

    I agree with Rabia, If they clean for me I will address them however they prefer 🙂
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